What’s holding you back from having your portraits taken?
I asked this question recently on my Facebook page and do you know what the number one answer was? Weight/Looks – it was answered with 83% of the votes!
I hear this often, from many women, when I ask them what has kept them from having portraits of themselves. If this is you, I can tell you, right now, YOU ARE NOT ALONE in that feeling. And do you want to know what else? I CAN RELATE.
I get it. Trust me. 100%. I have been there. I have bumps, lumps, insecurities just like many people do, but I don’t let all those things stop me from taking portraits. I have clients, who have told me during their consultations that they in fact have insecurities too, and I have been honored to photograph every single one of them and show them how truly amazing they are.
Since this is a deeply personal feeling, I wanted to share my personal story with you.
For many years, I hid from the camera. I didn’t want to be seen. I didn’t want my 100+ pounds of excess weight to be seen. I didn’t want my unkept hair to been. I didn’t want my pimples to be seen. I just didn’t want to be seen. I felt so insecure. I felt every single photo was just a reminder to me that I wasn’t beautiful. I didn’t like them, I didn’t love them, I wanted to hide. Anytime someone would yell “GROUP PHOTO!” guess who was trying to hide behind others? Yours truly. And even when selfies started to become popular, I didn’t want to be seen on those. I just wasn’t loving myself.
In this top photo, I was just about to have weight loss surgery, a surgery that was going to change my life. I wanted to have some before photos to see my journey. These were them. I cut my face off. At that time, I didn’t feel beautiful. Not just about my body. In general, I was lacking self love. But I still wanted to have a record of some type.
In the second row, I was about 10 months or so out of surgery. I took these images as a personal story, of my self. Physically, I had radically changed. I was no longer on loads of blood pressure meds, which was great but I was still embracing all of the change. That even though I had “physically” lost the weight, that I still struggled with my body image. This is me, in front of a mirror. Looking at me. Looking at my new body. Looking at who I am now. Comparing to others. And really getting a huge dose of the saying – “Comparison Is the Thief of Joy” – Theodore Roosevelt
The last row. This was it. This was when I said, YOU KNOW WHAT? Even though I may not FEEL “perfect”, I AM PERFECT and I AM FREAKING FABULOUS and I captured it. In self portraits. I grabbed a fabulous dress, I put it on, and I posed myself just like I pose my clients. I guide all of my clients into poses that show their best selves! I want my clients to see the beautiful person that I see right in front me when I am working with them.
So here’s the thing. In every single row, I always felt like “I wish I could just lose a little more weight” or “Oh man, my hair is a mess” or “Argh – I wish _______”. I had an excuse. And NO, it is not because I was/am overweight.
Every single woman, every single shape, every single size IS ABSOLUTELY AMAZING AND GORGEOUS.
The woman that I am now, still has lumps and bumps. The woman that I am now still has flappy arms. The woman that I am now, still has a belly. The woman that I am now still has a bit of a chin.
I have all these things – and maybe you have all of these – or maybe some of these.
Need proof? Here is me, right now, as I write this blog:
Even if you have ANY of these, you DESERVE portraits of yourself that you love.
What’s the difference between my last row of photos and right now? Well for one, this is me every single day. Hanging out in leggings. I am just hanging out. I am not styled in a gorgeous outfit. My hair isn’t done and my makeup is minimally done (I am a daily makeup wearer). Also, I am NOT posed. I am just standing there.
Here’s the thing:
Just through posing ALONE, I can:
– make you look slimmer
– reduce/remove double chin
– thin out your arms
and MAKE YOU LOOK AND FEEL FABULOUS!
I will pose you and guide you. I will chat with you about your concerns. I will address those the best that I can. Your hair and makeup will be professionally done. PLUS – I will style your photoshoot with dresses and other outfits that you adore and feel beautiful in.
Be transformed. Celebrate you.
Treat yourself to a makeover portrait experience. I want to show you the best portrait you’ve seen of yourself. You deserve it.
#ExistInPhotographs – “for your children, for yourself, for the people who love you…” – Sue Bryce
Pick up your phone, scroll through your photos. Count how many photos you have of yourself that ARE NOT selfies. Now, compare that to the number of photos you have of everything else BUT yourself? Did you see a big difference? I bet, if you’re like me or well, most of us, your photographs are not of you but your family, your loved ones, your kids, your grandkids, etc.
That is why #existinphotographs as a hashtag means so much. When is the last time you had a professional portrait taken of yourself? Be honest. Many times, I’ve asked my clients this exact question and they’ve usually said “Oh, when I got married” or “Senior photos?”. If it’s been that long, it’s time for YOU to #existinphotographs.
Because – years down the road, when your children and family look for photos of you, what will they find? Sure, it’s great to see the fun selfies you took but wouldn’t you love to leave a beautiful professional portrait behind? One that you could pass on for generations. One that your family will forever cherish of YOU. I absolutely cherish the old photos that have been passed on for generations of my grandparents and great grandparents. Every time I look back at those photos, I just am in awe with how beautiful they are. I love being able to share these portraits of my family with friends and other family. Those images bring such great stories and such great memories.
This is Sally. Her daughter, a very close friend of mine, asked me to surprise her mom with portraits and I did jus that. Now let me tell you, Sally is a warrior. She’s faced battles and has defeated them. She has such a beautiful heart and it was such an amazing time being able to chat with her and hear her story, hear her story of her family, and listen to the memories she shared. During her photoshoot, she even pulled out family photos from years ago, and shared stories with me. This is why we #existinphotographs. For moments like these, where we can reminisce and share. I was so honored to be able to photograph her. She’s a wife, a mom, a grandmother.
Get yourself out from behind the camera and get IN FRONT. Have beautiful portraits taken and LEAVE A LEGACY.
You are beautiful. You are amazing. You are worth it.